The Man with no Bones

We access our imagination through intuition and we access intuition through imagination. Imagination helps us solve dilemmas, brings us out of depression, and makes life fun.

When my self-esteem was low I had little imagination and I didn’t recognize my intuition. I didn’t trust them because I didn’t trust myself. I think it’s why I was unhappy and often made others around me unhappy with me.

I second-guessed ideas I had and many times, at critical moments, I made the wrong choice or changed my mind to the wrong choice instead. This played havoc with most jobs I had held. At least until I brought my self-esteem up high enough so I was able to trust my own mind and ideas.

Trust makes the Difference

Once I started doing that life became a lot more fun. I had fresh ideas for dinners and for places I wanted visit. I was funnier; I could joke and play. I wasn’t self-conscious about everything that came out of my mouth. I didn’t get in the way of my own ability to express myself.

When I was coaching for a living I spent part of my day on the coaching line taking random calls from clients who needed help between coaching sessions. We were often expected to monitor and take random calls from people in the programs we knew little about. Steven Covey’s Seven Habits coaching clients had a similar yet very different approach to Jack’s program, which was much more “feelings” oriented; Covey’s clients were more cerebral and analytical and I was somewhat intimidated by them. I always worried that it would make the program look bad if I didn’t coach these students well.

It was during one of these experiences that I felt for the first time my intuition kicking in while I was coaching.

A man called into the coaching line from the Covey program. He immediately launched into the trouble he was having with a certain principle in the program, expecting of course I would know exactly what to tell him to do. But I did not know. Following my training, which is to listen rather than trying to figure out what to say, I listened and waited. Then he stopped talking and waited for my advice. There was a pause and then suddenly the answer came to me. It was perfect! The perfect answer he needed to be able to move forward again. And I about fell off my chair. And so did he.

I don’t know where that answer came from but I think it was one of those spiritual moments that are simply out of time and space and outside our own understanding. I know that I wouldn’t have recognized it, let alone believed in myself enough to go with it in the moment, in another time when I had felt low about myself and I could not believe in my own ideas and imaginings.

The Man with No Bones

As a coach for leadership guru Jack Canfield (co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series) I was honored to attend his week-long Breakthrough to Success seminar as his guest and as success coach to attendees.

At Jack’s seminar he put the entire room of 400 into circles of eight. We were instructed to go around our circle and introduce ourselves, and to briefly say something about ourselves. Once we did that the next assignment was to introduce the person to our right to the whole room. We had almost no information so it was intended to be an imaginative and fun exercise in make-believe.

Since beginning to coach for Jack I had learned to access my intuition and imagine in a much bigger and braver way. Fresh ideas began to come to me on a regular basis.

When he got to our circle everyone introduced the person to their right and “talked” about him or her. We were instructed, as the person being introduced, to act the part of the “description” being given. So if the person introducing you said you were 110 years old you had to act like you were 110.

Some introductions were weak and unimaginative. I, of course, had no idea what I was going to say until it was my turn. And then I knew.

“I would like to introduce you to my friend Jason Wright. Jason has accomplished so many things in his life despite his severe disability. As you can see, Jason was born with no bones.

At that introduction Jason played the part stunningly. He proceeded to flop over in his chair completely limp. He even got some help from his neighbor so he could stay in the chair. The room laughed. Although he was propped up by his neighbor, Jason still crumpled to the ground completely limp from bonelessness.

The crowd went wild! My introduction was a hit – the most successful, most outrageous introduction in the room. My self-value shot to a 10. I received comments and laughs from people I didn’t even know for the rest of the day. I felt a little like a celebrity.

Do whatever you need to do to tap into your infinite creativity. If you have trouble believing in yourself just start somewhere. Start small and build your faith in yourself gradually, brick by brick. Every success will increase your ability to believe the next time. And the new level of faith in yourself doesn’t diminish later: it increases your full level of self-esteem every time.


Sheri Fawson